Women will love this porn-site!

That time we started a porn-site and gave our moms heart attacks

Maybe the reason that the very clear problem in the adult entertainment industry had yet to be solved is because we, as women, were simply not talking about it. We just weren’t. Porn has typically been a taboo topic amongst females, and as a result, it’s a conversation that’s been avoided. Anything involving female sexuality has some stigma attached to it, actually. You probably even feel a bit funny reading this right now. It’s okay.

There’s this major misconception that we, as women, somehow enjoy sex less than men do. Our gender is seriously sexually misrepresented- whether it’s by the media, by porn, or even by ourselves. A blatant admittance of a healthy sexual lifestyle would typically be met with either a confused or judgmental reaction. So instead of talking openly about our sexuality, we women are repressing it. Hard. And fast. (Haaaa!)

Bellesa was built on the notion of talking about it. We talked about it unapologetically. We talked about what kind of a misogynistic mindfuck it was to open up your average tube site and have to sift through facial videos and voice popups from the “sexy 18-year-old Russian next door who wants to suck your big hard cock”. Huh? I don’t have a big hard cock. Or any cock. I’m a woman. Maybe I’m not supposed to be here. Okay, maybe I’m just in the wrong place. What if I just…click here on this…oh, virgin schoolgirl gets punished by step-daddy. Okay. Shit’s weird. Get me out of here.

Only after writing this out is it dawning on me that Bellesa may have been low-key created for somewhat selfish reasons. I wanted to watch porn. I could not find said porn. I know, I know. A woman! Watching porn! Meh. Sue me. It’s 2016.

We started collecting data. Lots of data. I’m not sure if we even had intentions at this point, but the curiosity was real. We learnt that there were thousands of women who genuinely wished they were able to enjoy porn, they just weren’t able to in its current made-for-men iteration. We wanted to know HOW women were experiencing sexuality on the Internet — what they wanted to see in porn (and what they wanted to stop seeing) — and build from the ground up. Just as importantly…we wanted to start a conversation.

So many women with whom we spoke experienced a very similar feeling. Exclusion. Pornland felt like this creepy, chauvinistic space where storylines are sketchy AF (or non-existent) and men pay very little attention to female needs or desires. Listen, it makes sense. The entire industry is basically run by men, for men. As a result…the camera tends to embody the shit out of the male gaze and neglect that of the female. Women are shown constantly catering to the fantasies of faceless men.

The overwhelming portion of what’s available online promotes major misunderstandings of what women actually want in bed. This sucks for everyone. It also encourages a condescending (and dangerous) attitude toward condoms and breeds a total ignorance of foreplay.

Women account for 50% of the population. Women account for nearly 30% of online porn viewership. Why is 99% of the content out there made for men?

Adult entertainment was so clearly missing this massive mark. Society was all messed up. Women watch porn. Because women like sex. Women like sex!


This is the deal. We really, really believe that sexuality on the Internet should depict women as they truly are. We are subjects of pleasure, not objects of conquest. Bellesa’s mission, ultimately, is female empowerment. We want to give women a website unlike any other that they could use to explore their sexuality, unapologetically. We want to ditch the outdated stigma and we want to redefine sex positivity.

Nowadays, people are watching sex before they are having it, so in a way, adult entertainment is today’s sexual education. By changing the sex that people are watching, we’re hoping to change a whole lot more.

http://www.bellesa.co/

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